February of last year friends and family were shocked when we finally spoke about what was really going on behind our door at home. There was abuse at home and no one had any idea about it. A smile and a closed door can hide many things and mental, physical, verbal or sexual abuse is only some of those.
For 17 years I was known as the happy and bubbly person in school, in work and out in public. No one knew about my abuse at home.
No one knew about the abuse at home. You could say that I was a great actress or maybe that people didn’t know me as well as they believed too. I’d believe that it was the latter. Lack of trust and fear were the primary reasons for this.
Behind my happy mask, I was crying for help. Although I could never show it or ask for the help myself and my family needed. What happens in the house stays in the house was a big rule when my father was here. If he found out that you had told someone something that has happened or said in the house you would regret it.
I learned that the hard way.
Behind closed doors, so many things can happen and you would have no idea. Physical, mental, verbal or sexual abuse could be going on behind those doors and that smile you see each and every day could be completely fake. You would never know this until they actually sit down and talk about it. That won’t happen though unless they are completely ready.
Abuse is happening worldwide and we need to come together to stop it. How do we do that? Abuse survivors need to come together and speak about their experiences, teach people about how the abuser acts so they can see the warning signs. I am ready to talk about my story of abuse, are you?
My reasons behind this post are to show you that people may look happy but they could be going through hell. You would have absolutely no idea. Please be kind and considerate of the way you treat people. You never know when someone could be on the edge. Kindness is key. Please reach out to the authorities if you need help getting out of an abusive situation.