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Why school or college is not for everyone series: Week eight starring Hayley.

Why school or college is not for everyone series week eight!Thank you all so much for participating in this series! This series is to show you that school or college is not for everyone. You may be that person. Don’t feel pressured into going to college is you feel like it’s not for you. 

Today we are meeting the lovely Hayley and learning all about her education series. 

Let’s meet Hayley and read her reasons why school or college is not for everyone. 

Why school or college is not for everyone series week eight!Thank you all so much for participating in this series! This series is to show you that school or college is not for everyone. You may be that person. Don't feel pressured into going to college is you feel like it's not for you. 

Hayley is a newbie to the blogging world and writes about her quest to make life feel less manic at educatinghayley.com. She is on a mission to educate herself and form new habits around meal prep, mindfulness, organisation and money saving.

Let’s read her story.

Why a degree doesn’t equal happiness

When I was about 15 I decided I was going to be a teacher. Before that I was going to be a vet but then I read the James Herriot books and decided I didn’t want to put my arm up a cow! Also if a dog barks at me I jump so it probably wasn’t the best career choice. For work experience I went back to my primary school and when my two weeks were up and I returned to school it was settled. I was definitely going to be a teacher!

Fast forward a couple of years and I was studying Children’s Care, Learning and Development at sixth form and planning to study teaching at university. I got right to the end of the two year course and failed my final placement. I was told that I didn’t have time to retake my placement so therefore I had failed the second year of the course and only had half of my qualification. My dream of being a teacher went up in smoke, I couldn’t apply for university and it felt like I had wasted two years of my life. I got a bit choked up writing all of this down because it all came flooding back to me. How devastated I was. The feeling of floating with no idea of what I would be or what I could do next. My life plan gone. The pity from friends and family when they heard I hadn’t made it to university. I had failed.

I picked myself up as best I could and started searching for a job I could get with what I had.

I kind of fell into being a nanny and now 9 years later I’ve never looked back. It is so rewarding working closely with a family, practically becoming one of the family. I have had amazing experiences that I wouldn’t have had as a teacher. For two years I lived and worked near London, 250 miles away from home and family. I grew so much as a person, gained confidence (my lack of confidence was the reason my last placement failed me.) made new friends and had experiences that I could only have dreamed of before. I returned home at the end of the summer and am in the middle of arranging to move away again to work for another family. It’s exciting and fulfilling and I love it!

What I’m trying to say is that going to university and getting a degree doesn’t necessarily equal happiness.

Only if the job that you get as a result of that degree makes you happy. Interestingly a few people I studied with did go on to become teachers, one quit altogether due to stress and a couple of the others say they aren’t happy in their current jobs. At the time not getting to train to be a teacher felt like the worst thing that could have happened to me. Now I realise it’s probably the best thing that could have happened because it led me to be where I am today.

University isn’t for everyone.

There are so many different options for careers and training to get there. If your “plan” doesn’t work out for whatever reason, there are other options. Never feel like a failure because you have had to rethink. You only really fail once you give up.

Thank you Hayley for sharing your story and reasons why school or college is not for everyone. 

Are you struggling to come up with the decision of moving onto third education or not? Read some more of these posts here that may help you make your decision. 

Just remember school or college is not for everyone. You can go anywhere in life and be happy without a degree. It may take you a little longer to get there but you will. 

With Love, 

Anne xxx

Why school or college is not for everyone series week eight!Thank you all so much for participating in this series! This series is to show you that school or college is not for everyone. You may be that person. Don't feel pressured into going to college is you feel like it's not for you. 

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14 thoughts on “Why school or college is not for everyone series: Week eight starring Hayley.

  1. Great post, and I definitely agree. Nowadays I find schools are so pushy to get you to go to University (that’s what mine did anyway) and it was a good experience for sure but I am not doing anything to do with that degree, so sometimes I do wonder if it’s worth it.. especially having all that debt as well!

    Chloe xx
    http://www.chloechats.com

    1. That’s for reading! I definitely think this series will help a lot of people who feel pushed or pressured. My school was the same and I decided for my mental health it wasn’t a good idea for me

  2. This has been a great series. I caught up on the ones I have missed today. My daughter has been struggling for a year with wanting to leave college. I tell her that she needs to live the life that is best suited for her and to find her own happiness. I will support whatever decision she feel’s is best. It’s a shame her father doesn’t feel the same. I know she is only staying out of the guilt he has led her to feel. I am definitely sending the link for this series to my daughter and my Ex. Hoping this helps her find her happiness. Thanks Anne.

    Nancy
    http://myeverydaychallenges.com

  3. This is definitely true. I did end up getting my degree but I changed my majors three times. And in the end the field I work in is not what I studied at university. And I have plenty of friends who are happy and successful without a university degree.

  4. I love this series! Very impressive. I really hope more people can read this post and allow it to motivate them into pursuing something else if uni isn’t working our for them. Thanks a lot for this series.

  5. This post is great . Our society pressures everyone to go to school and get a degree . People are told that they will only successful if they go school. A lot of college graduates are unhappy or do not work in their fields. I’m glad that you still see the big picture and I commend you for taking that pressure off of people .

  6. A really great job at tackling a topic that will have different opinions! I did not go to college when I was younger & can really see it from both sides!

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